work flow tools

I spend a great deal of my day at work creating tools to facilitate efficient work flows.
I manage productivity numbers and analyze data. I have been unsuccessful creating those same workflow tools in my personal life.

I decided this morning that when I start feeling overwhelmed. I am going to stop and gauge my own emotional investment in the situation. I can ask "is this happening with me or to me?" "how emotionally invested in this event am I?" If the answer is small - then I can give it the finger and move on. If it is a great deal, then I have permission to fully engage and fight it out.

It is all about taking responsibility for myself in the situation. It is incredibly empowering.
To engage or not engage. That is the question.